Most of us grew up in a monochromatic home; the walls were painted neutral shades because that is what may have been trendy or acceptable and I’m sure it was great for resale value. Girl’s rooms may have been the traditional pink and the boys perhaps a blue hue which in the past may have been deemed “acceptable”. Today as we look to nurture a child’s imagination and empower them to be inspired individuals with their own unique personality, we have to let them have creative autonomy of the space they use the most. Now of course the control of the room’s look is within reason, it should be age appropriate, meet their needs and still be clean to certain extent, but though the young tenants don’t pay a dime, they should have the biggest sway in the area that ultimately influences them most.
I am a huge believer in a space helping empower and motivate your feelings. If the child’s room is inspirational to their specific dreams and likes, then that is what they will focus on. In the short term, it will give them a sense of accomplishment and ownership which may have them actually taking responsibility of their space and long term it will instill confidence, self-fulfillment and pride in what they had a hand in creating. Not to mention they will remember how cool their parents were to let them have free reign on their living environment.
Unfortunately, sometimes we as parents are a little controlling because we obviously think we know what is best for our child, and usually we do. We love to “snow plough” the way clear for them to give them the easiest life path, to “learn from our mistakes”, to give them what “we didn’t have” yadda, yadda, yadda. We all know the righteous mantras we tell ourselves as parents and I’m sure we mean well but sometimes we have to let go. Our children are not mini replicas of us as much as we want them to be because we are awesome. They have unique thoughts and perspectives that have to be cultivated; we have to let them make their own choices and mistakes.
When it come to their room decor it’s only paint and as your child grows their needs and interests change; so should their surroundings to help support those desires. Let them be proud of what makes them different or special instead of trying to conform to what is deemed the norm. Ultimately as parents, we are to nurture our children to be the best they can be and that means creating the optimal environment for your uniquely gifted child.
We volunteer with various children’s charities to help make a child’s dream space come to life. We love doing this and witnessing the child’s spirit just light up when they are in their glory. It makes us as parents realize we shouldn’t wait to let circumstances force us to do what makes our children happy, confident and inspired.